I’m really sorry to hear that—that kind of behavior is not only disrespectful but also emotionally harmful. Throwing food on the floor, especially something your mom put time and effort into, is not just rude—it crosses a line into controlling and potentially abusive behavior.
It’s okay to have preferences, but refusing to eat the same meal twice and reacting with that kind of aggression isn’t about food—it’s about power and control. That sort of response sends a message that your mom’s effort and care don’t matter, and no one deserves to be treated like that in their own home.
If this is a pattern (and not just a one-time outburst), it might be worth encouraging your mom to talk to someone—whether a trusted friend, therapist, or support service. Behavior like that can wear someone down over time, especially if they start adjusting their whole life just to avoid setting him off.
And for you—if you’re feeling hurt, angry, or powerless in the situation, that’s totally valid. Do you want help thinking through how you can support your mom or how to handle things when you’re around him?